Reclaiming Mother’s Day as a Motherless Mother | Nicole Weston, Life Coach for Moms
Join Life Coach Nicole Weston, therapist Miranda Malone, and psychic medium Brittany as they explore navigating Mother’s Day grief. Learn to reclaim the holiday, identify spiritual signs from your late mom, and break generational cycles through radical self-mothering.
This week on the podcast, we are stepping into the "grief corner of the internet" for a raw, unfiltered group chat. I’m joined by two strategic partners in this work: Miranda Malone, therapist and founder of The Dead Mom Club, and Brittany, a psychic medium and spiritual mentor. Together, we are deconstructing the complex layers of navigating Mother’s Day without a mom, honoring our late mothers, and—most importantly—the motherless mother's guide to self-care.
The Power of "Me First" Motherhood
As a life coach for motherless mothers, I am obsessed with the concept of loving the self. Often as moms, we get pushed to the sidelines because we’re so busy showing up for everyone else. I’ve had to be very clear in my own journey: Mother’s Day is about me first.I don't feel weird saying that. I deserve for this day to be about me, and you do too. As I shared during our chat, "I am selfishly always earmarking these days for me, because I want my kids to have the opportunity to celebrate me and then also to honor that I’m here because I have a mom too". It takes practice to claim that space, but it is essential for our capacity to lead our families. This is a core pillar of healing from maternal loss; you must prioritize your own oxygen mask.
Grief as a Portal for Transformation
We often talk about "getting through" grief, but I view it as a an invitation into a more profound way of living. I’ve found that my relationship with my mom is stronger now than it ever was in the physical realm. This isn't about ignoring the pain. I still have days where the rage is real and the "grief fog" is thick. But there is a massive shift that happens when we stop running from ourselves. "Imagine a world where we have revolutionized how we do grief," I posed to the group. "Peace doesn't mean I don't still cry... it means being connected to something bigger than I would have been able to envision just with my human body". Coping with mother loss as a parent requires this multi-layered approach of honoring the physical absence while nurturing the spiritual connection.
Strategic Insights for the Motherless Mother
Microdosing Grief: Miranda discussed how she carries her grief in a different way now that she’s a mother, "microdosing grief daily" through rituals and storytelling with her son.
The Science of Connection: Brittany reminded us that energy can never be destroyed, only changed. She encouraged us to ask for "spiritual signs from deceased mother"—whether it's a purple Jeep or a song on the radio—to validate that the connection is still alive.
The Body Remembers: We discussed the "five to 10 business day" warning. Even if you aren't consciously thinking about the date, your body remembers the trauma and the timing. This body memory of grief can manifest as irritability or exhaustion.
Breaking the Cycle: Reparenting Your Inner Child
One of the most moving parts of our conversation was reflecting on how our grief work impacts our children. I recently did inner child work for grieving mothers with my seven-year-old daughter, helping her realize that her fear "doesn't want to be shoved in the corner; it wants to be seen and validated".Our children are coming in hungry for these conversations. By doing our own shadow work and reparenting yourself after losing a mother, we are showing them how to live in a world where loss doesn't mean the end of love. We are breaking generational cycles of "stuffing it down" and moving into a space of thriving.
A Message for the Journey
If you are in your first year or two of loss and this conversation feels "f* annoying" to hear—that is okay. Not everyone is ready to see grief as a gift, and you don't have to be. But I invite you to consider that there is more love on the other side of the door. I’d rather be in the sadness mothering myself than on the other side of that door kicking myself in the ass. You are not alone in this. We do this work so you don't have to navigate the dark spaces by yourself.
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Mother's Day Grief: What No One Tells You About Losing Your Mom and Finding Her Again
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