The Download That Changed Everything: What Grief Taught Me About Leadership and Love | Nicole Weston Transformational Life Coach
Grief, Motherhood & Business | The Download That Changed Everything
Grief doesn’t pause for motherhood or business. Learn how to integrate healing, leadership, and love through Divine Self-Leadership.
“you are always more than you think you are”-Nicole Weston
There are moments when life cracks you open and hands you a new path. Mine arrived like a lightning bolt on a late summer walk a vision so clear it took my breath away. A space revealed itself… one where women who lead, women who mother, and women who have lost a parent could come together. A space where business, healing, and mothering could finally belong in the same room.
The intersection of grief, motherhood and entrepreneurship
I can’t fix a business problem without first acknowledging how I’m feeling in my business. I can’t be present in motherhood while silently drowning in guilt for not doing enough. And I can’t call it “stress” when what I’m truly feeling is sadness.
Sadness is sacred and it must be met with love, compassion, and grace this has been the process for how I am leading myself and others in divine feminine leadership. Each one of our journeys will be different because the relationships we have with our parents are different. AND we can share similar experiences as women in business and motherhood. I know that grief cannot be ‘fixed’ but I do know it can integrated and that comes with embracing a new way of loving ourselves.
Integration happens when we allow ourselves to be fully seen as we are without the mask. From the online virtual room to the kitchen table and school drop offs, to how we feel about ourselves is the number one success indicator. How we respond to our pain is where we find our innate power.
My core belief is simple yet radical: our emotions do not define us, they are indicating what we need.
Nothing is wrong with you, it’s not your fault.
Think back for a moment when you identified with being so overwhelmed as a business owner and you said to yourself “what is wrong with me”. An emotion came over you and created a feeling inside of your body and you labeled it under the tab “I am wrong”. My love, do you know how harmful and toxic that pattern is? It’s not your fault, you most likely learned from your mom, who learned it from hers. How we learned how to love and accept ourselves came from watching the women who raised us. I can almost say for certain your mother sacrificed herself, her needs and her ambition so you unintentionally learned how to do it to.
But now your a mother and you don’t want to do that way BUT you don’t have any other model. You know what you should do, but when life gets HARD and because it does. The woman you are and the woman you want to be feel very disconnected and the path for how to do it differently is foggy and feels out of reach. Again not your fault.
As a transformational life coach and trauma conscious practitioner II believe that when you can see that something is no longer working for you you are ready to heal it. We cannot change what we don’t know is broken. So first, compassion for yourself please. There isn’t a handbook for how to grieve, love, live, mother and operate a business until now. I’ll be honest, it’s a not a handbook either it’s a guide that offers you an invitation to let go and reconnect back to you. So you can feel confident in your decisions again.
I love the experiment where they are growing two plants side by side. Both plants receive equal amounts of water and sunlight but one plant receives positive affirmations while the other plant is bullied. Guess what plant doesn't bloom, or grow and actual begins turning brown?
The plant that was bullied. Why? Because energy is everything.
Our words, thoughts hold energy. So, how are you speaking to yourself? Because growth requires compassion, acceptance and love.
Entrepreneurship, grief and motherhood we can’t do it in silos.
Being an entrepreneur for 12 years now I know the importance of being in community. But after my mother died I didn’t know where I belonged. I tried to show up in mom groups but I felt this deep need to share what I was carrying and felt like it was too big for that space. I showed up in mansterminds and realized how fragile I was and couldn’t hold the ‘hustle’ energy that was needed to succeed. So I started to seprate the parts of myself as I searched for a community that fit all of me.
I didn’t find it. So now, I am creating it. Why? Because as a woman and mother I am so POWERFUL and so are you. Motherhood was the most potent experince I ever had as a business owner. I became very clear about boundaries, my power and I was aligned. When my mother died I could sense the journey I was on was ultimatley expand and heal me. But without a container to hold ALL OF ME I constantly felt like I was leaving potential on the table. There were peices of me being left behind unresolved.
To be real and authentic. To be vulnerable. Safe and trusting relationships are how we heal. The intersection of motherhood, business and grief offer us an opportunity to grow. Grow our love and self worth, grow our impact and grow our income and live fully in our life.
What’s the solution?
Be in community with other who are in the same season of life, motherhood, business and grief as you. Healing happens when we surround ourselves with women in the similar experiences. Shame is instantly dismantled and our truth shines through.
This Is the New Paradigm of Leadership The future of divine leadership is not found in hustle or hierarchy it’s born in the hearts of women who are brave and willing to lead with love.
You don’t need to have it all figured out to begin again. (Something I wish I embodied in the early days of my grief). You just need to be willing to show up with curiosity and a desire to re-align to the woman you are becoming. Leading yourself first is the only process I have seen to be successful over and over again. My Divine Leadership framework has helped me and thousands of women do the same. This is the process of becoming your most aligned and confident self.
You deserve a space where your grief, your goals, and your growth can coexist. Where you can show up exactly as you are unmasked, unedited, and fully human and be met with love, compassion, and truth.This is the work of Divine Leadership: Learning to hold both the pain and the possibility, to lead not from perfection, but from presence and to love yourself through every chapter of your becoming.
If you’re ready to walk alongside women who get it women who are navigating motherhood, business, and loss while building lives of alignment then I invite you to join the waitlist for my upcoming community membership Her Homecoming: free space for women who are ready to come home to themselves as they design a life they LOVE in motherhood, leadership and business.
This sacred community is where we integrate it all:
Grief and growth
Healing and leadership
Business and belonging
Self love and connection
I am building this community because I wish it was around for me and now I am honoured to be offering this space for you. You were never meant to carry it all on your own. You can have both the love and joy while holding sadness and pain. The successful business without the burnout while being present and fulfilled in your marriage and as a mother.
Sending you so much love and light, Nicole.
P.S. if you want to book a free 15 minute connection call with me I would be honoured: book now
